Self-Control means to take control over the way you behave and act. It is having the willpower to see, choose, and do what is right.
Self-control shows the depth of one’s strength. It is one’s ability to resist temptation, overcome urges, and forego gratification for a higher purpose. It also is one’s ability to choose rightly. Self-control is integral to a positive attitude and perseverance. Self-control in itself is half the formula for success.
Self-control is about living in moderation, avoiding extremes in any direction, and keeping a balance helpful for coping with challenges old and new. To maintain self-control, we must have three things:
- A Standard ~ knowing what we want or should do
- An Awareness ~ recognizing behaviors failing to meet the standard
- An Ability (Willpower) ~ being able to correct any errant behavior
Loss of self-control may occur easily when we lack any one of the three; not knowing where we are going, not paying attention to our progress, or not having the knowledge or strength to get back on track.
Fortunately, there are several easy and effective ways to keep self-control. Setting goals, monitoring progress carefully and honestly, rewarding desirable behaviors, learning self-help methods and practicing self-control on a regular basis will all help. As with all our life skills, the more we practice self-control, the easier and more natural it will become. Also, like our other life skills, self-control is equally beneficial to our martial arts training and to all other areas of our lives.